This past Sunday, I had the opportunity to hear a journalist speak about his journey of self-discovery, about how although he had always considered himself Jewish, he in fact was only half Jewish, that after he’d grown to adulthood, when he was courting the woman he eventually married, he made it clear that he wanted a Jewish home. He then went on to explain how his Protestant wife insisted that if they were going to raise Jewish children and keep a Jewish home, they needed to know what to do. What a genius! She (a) acknowledged an educational gap; (b) realized that success begins with a strong foundation; and (c) pushed them to build that foundation together.
This simple request turned into a lifetime journey of self-discovery for this journalist, one which he described as enabling him to begin tending to the garden that is his inner self, plant it with everything necessary to build his best self, and share that transformed person in the best way possible.
For some it may be as easy as your spouse pushing you to recognize the existence of a gap, but for the rest of us the question is: What gaps? Don’t worry. That question will come when you’re ready, and not before. When your paycheck is good and steady, your life is swirling around you and seemingly full, take a breather. Look at what makes you inwardly happy. When you discover that, then you can plant your own garden and nurture it; and when it’s in full bloom, have no fear — the best you will shine through, and you too will realize that you love working on you.