That’s a really, really, really hard question to answer. Think about it for awhile, and when you’ve come to your final answer, the next question is how to go about getting there.
1) Is education involved? If so, will juggling work and classes be feasible? If night classes won’t work, maybe on-line classes will.
- Don’t think that there’s only ONE route to your destination. Look at each and every path, and determine realistically what will work. If you aren’t a night person, don’t enroll in a night class. It’s a recipe for disaster.
- The last thing you want is to sabotage yourself, so KNOW YOUR LIMITS!
- Don’t try to undertake a 60-hour-a-week work schedule AND classes if you don’t have enough stamina to get through the program and learn what you came there to learn.
- WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN, otherwise you’ll miss appointments, papers, and studying for exams, which is all part of staying organized. Very important . . . STAY ORGANIZED.
- If paying for classes is the issue, look into student loans, scholarships and grants.
- Never say “I can’t afford it.” Consider starting with free on-line college resources, such as those offered by Education Portal and Open Culture
- 2) If finding a life partner is something you want to “get” out of this life, figure out what it is that you need to have in your life partner in order to get through EVERYTHING together, and I do mean everything, from: middle-age, to illness, to hair loss, weight gain, age spots, wrinkles, dentures, children, pets, unemployment, underemployment, bankruptcy and homelessness.
If you can love the person you have fallen for through everything listed here, then you have probably found your life partner.
3) If what you want to acquire in this life is more spiritual than physical, figure out what type of spiritual connection you’re looking for. Consider . . .
- Starting at your local library and reading. Whatever you do, do not seek spiritual direction via the Internet, as it is filled with far too much fire and brimstone. True spirituality starts with the premise that this universe was created with love, and as such, that love extends to everything in it, including humanity, so begin by seeking a loving pathway that will bring you closer to your inner being, to humanity, Planet Earth and its life forces, and ultimately to an understanding of your Soul-Human-Universe-Creator connection.
- After you’ve done your preliminary research and reading, you may want to meet with area priests, rabbis, imams and clergy of your faith or the faith in which you are interested. If what you seek is a deep, meaningful connection to This World and The Creator, stay away from any clergyman or woman who speaks negatively of other religions and people, for each of us must find our own pathway to The Spirit that moves us, and while a particular path may not work for that clergyman or woman, it may work for you. Only you will know what’s right for you.
- If you want to know more than what your local library or clergy can offer, attend classes. Ask questions. If you don’t get the answers you seek in one class, enroll in another until you find your questions answered meaningfully and to your satisfaction.
- When you are ready, and when you know which path fits who you are, consider attending services, prayer circles or programs. If you get a “bad feeling” at one house of worship, try another.
There are many pathways one can take in order to fill one’s soul with the love and light of the Soul-Human-Universe-Creator connection. When you find the path that “feels like home,” you are on your way.
- So look inwardly.
- Ask the hard questions.
- Don’t look for easy answers, because they may not be easy at all. In fact, they may be the hardest answers you’ve ever sought.
- Life is a journey.
- Don’t be afraid.
- You can do it.
And whatever you do, don’t think that failing the first time means you’re a failure, because you’re absolutely not. You did something that didn’t work out. What does that mean? It means that you need to take a step back, and with a keen, reflective eye, evaluate what you did: What worked? What didn’t work? Utilize that knowledge by applying those lessons learned. Let your inner voice guide you, because only you can “get” out of this life that which you seek, find, and create for yourself.